being the "other woman" again
Phil and I had our first real (aka minus his gf) hangout yesterday. And we went ring shopping. So I got asked if I was the lucky girl or who's this for or when are you getting married at least ten times yesterday. Mostly I said, "I'm just helping" or "I'm not marrying him!" or inserted some random "she would like that" to throw them off. Is it really weird that I'm helping my guy friend find an engagement ring?
Phil already had a ring in mind, but the one he chose cost $7,000! They're trying to spend under $10,000 for their wedding so to buy her a ring that was 70% the price of the wedding seemed crazy to me. But then again, this is Phil. He is the king of generosity and kindness. He justified it by saying he would only buy one engagement ring, so why not? I had a whole lot of reasons for why not, towards the end, he actually took them into consideration.
We went to about 8 or 9 stores and everyone pretty much tried to talk him out of getting platinum since it added an extra $2,000 to the ring price and scratched more easily. Plus it required a special order since apparently platinum can get warped or something? Here's a smaller, white gold version of the ring....
When he talks about her, I like her a lot. When we're actually in the same room or even having a conversation, not so much. But what I do know is, I have never seen Phil so happy and that's what counts. Like Herman, I think Phil is a simple person who can maintain his sunny outlook no matter what. He already asked the parents for permission and her dad cried! This wedding will be a lot of dreams coming true and for that, I will gladly suffer through yet another friend wedding and possibly be a bridesmaid again. Although, I keep telling him "If you really want me to, I will, but, it's really ok if she'd rather choose her friends." We'll see what goes down after the proposal. I think he's going to do it on a boat. My hot air balloon idea was way too pricy...
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i think its cool that you went with phil ring shopping, as long as you are okay with it (ie you weren't wishing you were getting married.) herman's dad was telling me in the olden days, you couldn't go out unless you had a date! like a group of friends couldn't go out unless there was an equal number of guys and girls and they were coupled. a female couldn't go anywhere by herself? or a guy for that matter. this floored me, what if i was born in the wrong era? i mean, the three of us couldn't hang out by ourselves? it just sounds so....dumb.