4 posts tagged “friends”
I always consider myself a guy's girl since I like sports, video games and all sorts of other stereotypically "guy" things. I tend to get along better with guys and I still have more close guy friends than girl friends. Granted, these relationships were not always 100% platonic but whatever.
I had lunch with Phil and his gf Christine on Sunday and it was....well, pretty awful. When I first met her at her birthday party, I thought she was really nice. The second time I met her after the Universal Studios mess, she seemed to be the victim of a Ben attack and I appreciated little things that she did like paying for her own dinner although Ben had offered and buying enough candy for the three of us to share without being asked. This time, she did/said a lot of things that kind of cemented the fact that I will not ever be her friend. Or at least not separately.
Yes, I know I am judgemental but I care about Phil and he deserves a wonderful woman. I can't help but have my guard up when someone comes along and finds a way to ruin a perfectly good Phil-Emma hangout. Maybe I'm reading too much into little things or I just don't get her, but she just rubbed me the wrong way. First of all, she wasn't invited to our hangout, but we rearranged it so she could come. This annoyed me a little, but whatever, I want to get to know her since she's gonna marry Phil. But in short, during our two hour lunch, she managed to insult the restaurant I chose, make snide remarks about the waitress, convince Phil to tip her ten percent for "not doing her job", say San Diego was "boring" and say that if Ben wasn't going to change his life maybe God shouldn't have given him another chance and given it to someone else instead. Seriously?! Plus, every time Phil and I would start a conversation, she would kind of butt in with an inappropriate tangent to change the subject.
I tried to be nice, but I am no good at being fake so maybe she didn't like me either. I hate to say this, but I think she might just not like me or that I'm friends with Phil. This has happened to me before, where the girlfriends of my guy friends don't like me hanging out with their men so it's hard not to take it personally. For the record, I have only crossed the line with Wil (ok, with him a few times) but I didn't know his status and/or he lied about it. So it's not like I am some notorious "other woman"!
Later on, as Phil was driving home that night, he sent me a text that said "It was good seeing u today." I responded back that I had fun (with him, not her) and invited the two of them to my birthday karaoke thing up here this Friday. I got no response. I don't know where this one bad interaction leaves the Phil and Emma friendship...Does the fact that I'm a girl automatically cross me off his friends list?? She doesn't even know that Phil used to have a crush on me so why am I so threatening? Why can't everyone just get along?
Ew, girls like that are so annoying...
And to think I even invited her to tailgate with us at a Chargers game!
I don't even really remember when Nancy and I met, but we have pretty much been inseparable ever since. It wasn't even by choice, it just sorta happened. I was(ok, still am) super involved at school and she's a super involved parent so it was inevitable really. When everyone at school started mistaking us for each other, it was decided that we were sisters. At our school, we run a lot of stuff since she's PTA president and I'm Treasurer. We always tell people we're sisters instead of friends because friends have to be nice to each other and sisters don't but that's only half true. No matter how much we may argue or annoy or tease each other, I know she has my back and she knows I have hers. Despite all of the setbacks she's faced, she's still a great mom and a good person. I love being part of her girls' lives, because even though we may not be blood related, I love them as if they were my own nieces. And even though we spend our time together working on school stuff or hanging with the girls, it's just nice to know that I have another family that I belong to when mine is 100 miles away.
This week has been particularly hard for me. I found out on Tuesday morning that I am no longer teaching at Roosevelt this year. My credential mess (which is in process, but could take up to 50 days) means I am not legally allowed to be in a classroom. So I applied for the literacy coach job and hopefully I'll get it. In the meantime, I am a substitute. As in, somewhat unemployed, uninsured and pretty much unsure of my future.
But it's not all bad. I had my interview for coach today and I think it went pretty well. The new principal seems nice and she said she'd get back to me by early next week after she interviewed 3 or 4 more people for the position. I don't know who the competition is, but I feel pretty good, so keep me in your prayers and keep your fingers crossed.
Since I am classroom-less, I have to move 8 years of teaching stuff into...well, nowhere. I live in a studio now and have no actual "place" at school. So my awesome staff helped me out and offered me closets, cabinets and of course are helping me pack and move all of my stuff. Now, I'm almost all moved out and none of my stuff has actually left the campus. When everyone heard about what happened, they all offered to take days off so I could pay my rent and sub for them. I got offered a room in my friend's apartment too. One of them started looking for jobs for me online like a madwoman before I even did.
I've been kinda down, but I'm thinking positively and hoping for the best. I just have to wait it out on this coach thing. Instead of waiting around in misery though, Chris offered me his Chargers ticket for the game on Sunday, Missy is going to drive me down and I think Chad is going to pick me up from the train station. My friend said I could work on the first day of school, subbing for a kindergarten class. So it's all on the upswing. But it's just a waiting game but I have hope and faith that it will all work out!
When he asked me why I was 30 and single, the real answer should have been, "Because I haven't met anyone who would be worth fitting into my life, which is already full of family and friends who care about me and love me."
In a sense, I have always had the majority of my needs and wants met, so it never felt like anything was missing. And I could probably fill up the rest of my life and live happily ever after without a boyfriend/husband or whatever. When my weekend was suddenly free because he was sick, it was filled up with plans with various friends and that was all within minutes.
When he didn't call all week, I needed to hear Chad tell me that I was too wonderful to not get a call back. I needed Cindy to tell me that the only acceptable reason for him to not call me back was that he dropped dead. I needed Christina to tell me to hang in there and that he must have been abducted by aliens. I needed Sher to spend the entire weekend with me, talking about it till I didn't want to talk about it anymore. I needed Ben and Phil to ignore the whole situation and treat me like a princess and to remind me that there are good guys out there.I needed Amparo to bake me cookies and tell me the next one would be even better. Tomorrow, I am going to a sports bar with Cindy and Porfi to watch the Chargers game and check out guys who actually like sports.
And this is what I got, because I'm lucky enough to have amazing friends who understand what I need without me having to say a word.
Tomorrow is another day. I know I won't need a man to make me happy, because I've already come this far without one and had a fantastic time. But the best thing about being single is that there's always the freedom to find someone and the hope that the next one will be the one that was worth the wait...
